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If you lose your virginity to someone, and later you break up...

BradamanteBradamante
edited 2011-07-10 14:42:48 in General
...you'll be scarred for life. You'll be holed up in your room for two weeks crying while the world goes by, wondering if you should kill yourself.

The thing is, this is NOT TRUE. I know from experience it's not true. And yet every alarmist parent, mentor, teen magazine, and sex-ed teacher acts like it is. It's really just a scare tactic to make sure teens are scared of their own sexuality.
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  • AHRAHR
    edited 2011-07-10 14:44:04
    It will scar you for life if you're under the impression you'll be with that person forever.

    It's not a scare tactic. It's a serious worry that can happen if teenagers convince themselves they are in love when they are really just in lust.

  • ViviVivi
    $80+ per session
    It didn't happen to me.
  • ChagenChagen
    [tɕagɛn]
    This is true for some, such as myself.

    My sexual mores means that in such a situation, I must become celibate for the rest of my life.
  • AHRAHR
    edited 2011-07-10 14:48:36
    It depends on the person. Some do, some don't. The key is knowing what the relationship is, before you go into something like that. Some people view sex very casually, others...much less so.

    It's like when people discuss school. Not everyone is going to end up flipping burgers if you don't do amazingly well and go to a good college, and plenty will live happy fulfilling lives not going to college, but the advice is still being given for a reason.

    If a person is unable to reason the situation out for themselves, then I do not think halfway statements would work.
  • GLORIOUSLeaderGLORIOUSLeader
    When in Turkey, ROCK THE FUCK OUT
    As long as you understand the circumstances, you'll be fine; trust me.
  • PonicalicaPonicalica
    (void)
    When my first girlfriend broke up with me, I was emotionally scarred for a few months and still have minor niggling issues relating to her.

    But the sex was the one part that I wasn't feeling bad about.  Actually, if there had been no sex, it probably would have been harder on me.
  • AHRAHR
    Poni: Really? That is fascinating. Mind elaborating, if you don't mind me being so rude?
  • PonicalicaPonicalica
    (void)
    I don't, but I think it'll probably be better if I do it via PM or IM or whatever.
  • ┻━┻ ︵ ヽ(`Д´）╯︵ ┻━┻┻━┻ ︵ ヽ(`Д´）╯︵ ┻━┻
    Tableflipper
     teen magazine

    Really?

    I haven't actually read one before, but I assumed at this point they're about how to put on condoms properly and wooing girls with bad pick up lines.
  • AHRAHR
    OK! Then could you kindly message me?
  • GLORIOUSLeaderGLORIOUSLeader
    When in Turkey, ROCK THE FUCK OUT
    ^^ They don't make them for guys. 
  • ┻━┻ ︵ ヽ(`Д´）╯︵ ┻━┻┻━┻ ︵ ヽ(`Д´）╯︵ ┻━┻
    edited 2011-07-10 15:04:39
    Tableflipper
    Oh.

    Also, two weeks? Is that it? So what if it were true then?
  • MyrmidonMyrmidon
    Yeah, teenage guys are stuck reading Maxim and/or occasionally checking an older male family member's copy of Playboy.
  • GLORIOUSLeaderGLORIOUSLeader
    When in Turkey, ROCK THE FUCK OUT
    How tragic. (NSFW) 
  • PonicalicaPonicalica
    (void)
    Because looking at porn solves every sexual issue anyone could ever face amirite
  • All NinesAll Nines
    Has friends besides tanks now
    "It's really just a scare tactic to make sure teens are scared of their own sexuality."

    Ninja'd, but I feel like asserting my own opinion on this: I don't see how it being used as a scare tactic is even remotely more common than a teenager simply having their own sexual morals. For example, if I broke up with the person I lost my virginity to, I doubt the sex we had would be the reason I would mope around; if anything, I'd be more miserable at the sudden lack of sex, but either way that wouldn't be the worst part. More likely, once I was comfortable dating again, I would simply feel unworthy of the next girl, should she happen to be a virgin, and feel bad if I took her's.
  • CounterclockCounterclock
    Belief
    Kids are actually told this? O_o
  • BradamanteBradamante
    I was told it in my health class. Taylor Swift seems to buy into it, too.
  • ChagenChagen
    [tɕagɛn]
    MY mores make it so that any relationship after my first will feel vaguely like adultery. 

    So I have one chance to get it perfect, or I'm fucked for life and have to be celibate.

    If you've ever wondered why I have such exacting standards, that is why.
  • PonicalicaPonicalica
    (void)
    Sounds like your standards are the problem, Chagen.
  • VorpyVorpy
    ☭Unstoppable Sex Goddess☭
    Better choose well then, Chagen. Go out with one shitty girl and your entire life is ruined, forever.
  • ┻━┻ ︵ ヽ(`Д´）╯︵ ┻━┻┻━┻ ︵ ヽ(`Д´）╯︵ ┻━┻
    Tableflipper
    Just like Transformers.
  • MoerinMoerin
    No offence Chagen, but that sounds, uh, really really stupid.

    Just giving yourself one chance to make things perfect?  Hell, expecting perfection in your first (or really, any) relationship in any way is asking for the impossible.  It's just part of life that people are never really fully compatible, and it's inevitable that some people will just drift apart no matter what.  Especially in your first time, when you're so unsure about it and so young and stupid that you run a far greater risk of fucking everything up and ruining it all accidentally.

    Seriously, just... Your standards are too high.  There's no way you're going to be able to pull that off ever, so you may as well just be celibate for the rest of your life, or try and come to terms that nothing is perfect and your high standards will just end with you being all alone.
  • ┻━┻ ︵ ヽ(`Д´）╯︵ ┻━┻┻━┻ ︵ ヽ(`Д´）╯︵ ┻━┻
    Tableflipper
    Yeah Chagen, listen to the magical girl from an eroge.
  • MillerCrossMillerCross
    You can change. You can.
    Oh, you really think Moerin is a sockpuppet?
  • ┻━┻ ︵ ヽ(`Д´）╯︵ ┻━┻┻━┻ ︵ ヽ(`Д´）╯︵ ┻━┻
    Tableflipper
    No but he(I think the user is a he) is using the same name and an avatar of her(I think according to Google) so I wanted to say that.
  • ChagenChagen
    [tɕagɛn]
    I'm not sure why exactly so many people are perfect with settling when one can aspire for perfection.

    I make no compromises. I won't ever make compromises when it comes to relationships.
  • MillerCrossMillerCross
    You can change. You can.
    Because there's no such thing as perfection and it's nothing but a stupid dream. That's why.
  • ViviVivi
    $80+ per session
    Moerin is a she.


  • MoerinMoerin
    Because perfection doesn't exist.  This is an imperfect world, and you're always going to find at least some tiny flaw in anything and anyone you encounter.  It's learning to deal with these flaws that's a big part of actually having a successful relationship.
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