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Why do I have a feeling that the author of this comic was butthrt about getting rejected?
Doesn't tread any new ground safe for the "confident and cheerful" part that seems only have slipped into the rant by accident. Cancerous nerd/jock binaries are a detriment to living a full life, since these comics seem to be more about male self-fashioning than dating advice anyway.
I'd place good odds on the author of this comic being a self-loathing quasi-Nice Guy themseves. It's still the same essential division of lonely nerds, dudebrofratdouches, and women who are never nerds and all date dudebrofratdouches exclusively, only this time the resentment flows inwards.
Totally different brand of stupid.
This probably won't surprise anyone, but this comic isn't very realistic. In my experience of this kind of situation, most men won't admit their feelings and most women will come up with something soothing of the "I like you as a friend" variety even if they do. In reality, as opposed to fiction, most people don't like confrontation.
I also have to say that most of the people who got preferred over me weren't particularly macho, sporty types anyway. The woman just liked them better for whatever reason. It's life.
Cancerous nerd/jock binaries are a detriment to living a full life, since these comics seem to be more about male self-fashioning than dating advice anyway.
I think you pretty much summed up the problem with this type of comic/way of thinking. I mean, people can be confident and have non-mainstream interests, just like how they can be shy and have athletic ones. From what I can tell, the latter is actually decently common and somewhat ignored.
Binaries like this bug me for reasons somewhat related to the ones Chagen mentioned too. I think dividing people into little groups like this (i.e. nice loser guys vs. mean popular guys) just seems to encourage resentment on both sides.
Implying that women prefer confidence and arrogance over sentimentality and compassion bothers me as well since that implication both suggests that women are all alike and that they do not want to be in relationships with those who care about them.
AHR,
I AM SO CONFUSED..
At this point, I have a tough time distinguishing between complaining about the "nice guy phenomenon," complaints about those complaints, and parodies of both of those kinds of complaints.
That's terrible though, an LDR is still a relationship, and it's still just as contemptible to leave someone you supposedly loved for someone who was closer.
Ugh sorry probably just stating the obvious there. It just really irks me when people are so flippant about that sort of thing.
But then again, I can't help but think you deserve better treatment than that anyway, at the risk of being insensitive to the memory of your relationship.
If a relationship isn't working, it isn't. And especially LDRs are difficult to fix if the feeling is gone. Better to put an end to it early than to stretch it out out of a supposed sense of obligation.
But yeah, if it isn't working, it isn't, I couldn't agree more. The collateral damage is just such a bummer.
^ Aww, I see.
*huggu*
^^^Such devotion often comes off as clingy, obsessive and reading too much into the significance of it to me. Of course, an SO should be able to spot that and snip it in the bud, but with how often LDRs are a safe-mode relationship for socially awkward people, you can't always see it coming.
Ach, she was a LARPer. That doesn't do her any favours.