This Friend Zone comic

Waltzy

^^ Significance of what? LDRs? Because they can work out if it's really meant to be.

MillerCross

blah blah subjective perception of what matters to someone blah blah depends on the partners blah blah it's not particularly clingy under the caveat that the relationship is not based in false preconceptions and internet personas and know each other in at least some serious level blah blah it's too late blah blah.

InsanityAddict

You knew her before it became an LDR. That alone probably excludes you from the bad apples.

Also, "meant to be" is a bit of a useless phrase, since there's no way you can disprove that until the relationship actually fails.

Malkavian

I think it's funny that two of the three people who advised me against an LDR are in one now because they met them at cons.

In any case the song 'I'm in love with a fairy tale' describes my feelings on the relationship during my more stupid moments.

Icalasari

What the hell is an LDR?

Malkavian

Long Distance Relationship

I suddenly have a crazy idea to do a reverse Scott Pilgrim where an ex has to win his ex-girlfriend away from an asshole supervillain only to realize she's no good for him.

I'll call it 'I'm totally over you! Honestly! I don't think about you ever lonely night or anything!'

Waltzy

Ah well, it's different for everyone, I'm just saying that they are rather serious to some and that it's unfortunate when the serious ones are lumped in with the others, into the generalization that "if it's an LDR, oh well, what happens happens". They're definitely not for everyone though.

loltanget

>Also, "meant to be" is a bit of a useless phrase, since there's
no way you can disprove that until the relationship actually fails.

Sorry, I can't think of a better way to put it. I'm having trouble thinking of why it matters too. The main point was just "LDRs can work for some people" but that's pretty much the same thing.

InsanityAddict

Have had one, suffice to say that we had difficulty making time for each other and it was pretty much a placeholder gig too. It fell apart because I called her guinea pig a hamster, which meant I apparently wasn't paying enough attention.

But I've also seen people with whom they do work. The constant in it was that they all took it slow before actually speculating on seeing each other again and going into sappy I-miss-u routines.

Waltzy

Am in one, started online and will probably remain that way for at least a few more years. We've known each other almost 4 years, been an item for about 3 and a half, even though it feels like way longer.

We only started showing pictures of ourselves to each other about a year/half a year ago and it hasn't changed anything. It's tough sometimes but we have lots to talk about and do together in the meantime while we just patiently await the means to see each other in person and to one day live together permanently.

ffff probably boring everyone at this point lol

MillerCross

But I've also seen people with whom they do work. The constant in it was that they all took it slow before actually speculating on seeing each other again and going into sappy I-miss-u routines.

Like I said before, this shit only works when you have the decency to not uphold the girl in question as a mythical woman to worship when you're only familiar with her internet persona which you like because it's the only time someone's been nice to you or whatever.

LDRs workk when you treat them as normal relationships, really. Aknowledging that you're with a person who possesses a set of flaws and virtues, respecting her but not being pushy or pushed and all that jazz you've heard before as well as that blues you've probably listened to.

InsanityAddict

Working from different examples here, since all the anecdotal evidence I have is with LDRs that sprang from a meeting in the flesh. That said, seeing each other again can also spell the end of any interest, as happened to me with the dudette whose birthday turned into a weeaboo-emo clusterfuck.

Malkavian

I'm just into yanderes because I've experienced the opposite end of the spectrum way too often. ;_;

MillerCross

funny, i hate yanderes precisely because i've never experenced that shit and i'm happy to never have.

InsanityAddict

Hmm, if I'd go for an opposite of what I hated in previous dudettes I'd end up with a laid-back hipster. She'd be easy to tease, at least.

Icalasari

My LDR once nearly broke down because I was getting a little too clingy. I apologized, toned it back, and her and I are still together after years

Chagen

Threads like these prove exactly why I will never get into a relationship in my entire life.

That way lies suffering

MadassAlex

Suffering lies in all directions, no matter what. Whether you're strong enough to meet it is a more important question.

MillerCross

Never thought you were a buddhist.

Malkavian

Life is pain. Anyone who says otherwise is selling something.

/The Princess Bride.

MadassAlex

^^ Neither did I. xD

^ Princess Bride, therefore wisdom.

InsanityAddict

Better to do all the stuff wrong earlier than later, bro. Besides, it'll be amusing for us.