People who think TV Tropes is composed entirely of perverts

DonZabu

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Yep, biggest thread I've ever started. Thanks guys, that was fun. Especially you, Bob.

LouieW

Juan_Carlos,
Eh, not all annoying behaviors are intentional or at least malicious. Many of them are a mix of lack of self awareness and understanding of forum etiquette.

Sure, people definitely can annoy others without trying to bug them. Alerting them when they do so seems appropriate to me, but why not do that in PMs?

And sometimes the venting make the person understand that he's not particularly liked there, which really helps both parties instead of fostering grudges and the like.

I am not sure I understand this point. How does making someone know he or she is not particularly liked help stop fostering grudges? If anything, I would say it just encourages it by legitimating the idea that it is alright to hate people.

You might have a different experience with this than I have, but I feel like when people bearing grudges call out people publicly their targets seem to line up with the subjects of their grudges. When others support their view that the person in question is annoying and stupid and such in a public setting, I think that sends the signal that bearing grudges is okay since other people support it.

Basically, I think that if you want to change someone's behavior, trying to do it through PMs makes sense. If he or she did something largely unintentional and is generally receptive to the concerns of his or her fellow users, I think that person will be likely to change. If not, then I doubt complaining publicly is going to change his or her mind since he or she has demonstrated hostility to other users. Ganging up on him or her just seems to be a recipe for defensiveness from what I can tell.