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Some of the women at slutwalks...
... Are not the kind of woman I'd even consider touching, let alone raping.
I saw a picture of an obese, ugly woman wearing a striped shirt and carrying a hand-lettered cardboard sign saying "You only call me a slut 'cuz my sexuality scares you."
Honestly? She's right.
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Well, people who aren't attractive get raped too, I guess. From what I hear, rape isn't so much about the sex as the power.
I think that the people who are more likely to be raped are the girls who go to frat parties or have abusive relatives, not gender studies majors who are only there to support their moon-sisters.
But really, I disagree with the basic principle of slut walks. It's one thing if everybody is getting raped left and right and no one is doing anything about it, but one Canadian cop saying that a rape victim shouldn't have been wearing slutty clothing isn't really cause to go out and start a revolution. I mean, yeah, ideally it shouldn't matter what you wear, you should be safe out on the streets or in bars. But the truth of the matter is that you have to protect yourself against amoral people. Part of being a responsible adult is preparing for possible danger, and that involves dressing conservatively and carrying a means of defending yourself if necessary.
I think that "misandrist" is a better term. There are plenty of feminists who, while I think they're wrong, don't hate men.
But all this talk about "hey, I shouldn't have to protect myself!" is childish. Arguing that you shouldn't have to exercise caution because sexual assault is wrong is the height of immaturity, and I have less respect for such people than for college girls who get drunk and pass out on couches at parties.
If you want to interpret it that way, go ahead. As I said before, I have nothing but sympathy for victims of assault. And it's entirely possible for someone who's taken all possible precautions to still be assaulted. And even if someone walked into a bad neighborhood wearing nothing but a dreamy smile and got assaulted, I'd still sympathize.
Wicked, please, I'm allergic to straw.
The crazy thing about rape is that it also happens often in domestic situations with people you trust, in alleyways walking home, and god forbid with family members. In fact, those are more common.
Your boyfriend doesn't care what clothing you're wearing; that one friend of yours doesn't care if you're sober. Advice that protects you against strangers, even if it worked (dressing conservatively does not work), is mostly pointless for that reason.
If I was going to give someone advice to not be raped by a stranger, I'd give them the same advice for any other crime and tell them to appear difficult to rape (that is, be alert and carry a weapon if possible). If I was going to give someone advice to not be raped period, I couldn't do it reliably; there's no good way to tell if your boyfriend is the kind of guy who doesn't take "no" for an answer. Of course if you know he is that kind of guy you should break up with him and stay far away, but if you don't know that yet you just don't know it and there's no safe way to find it out.
About 20% of rapes (of women) are commited by strangers, which means that 80% aren't. And this is a survey, not based on police reports.
EDIT: Oh, now I see your mistake. You're looking at the column marked violent crime (as in, in general), instead of rape.
I'm not wholly convinced by the 'rape is all about power' line (if that were the case, why not just beat them up instead?), but that still doesn't have to mean that perceived beauty is what makes women vulnerable compared to perceived availability. Predators tend to be practical sorts operating in a high-risk environment, and that means that if given the choice on how to get their dicks wet, they're going to go for the easy option.