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Whenever people compliment me...
My first instinct is to tell them to fuck off and that flattery will get them nowhere with me.
why is this ._.
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shut up, it's not like i like being complimented or any...
oh
oh god
NOTHING BEGINS, SHUT UP AND GO AWAY!
I mean, no, Forzabro, stay and let's talk about Lo...
no, go and die in a hellhole
therefore it is invalid
I'm going to tell you something, it might be too much for you to handle, but bear with me:
Your ego is too large. Yeah I said it. If it weren't, what people say wouldn't matter that much to you, regardless of whether it is positive or negative.
Juan's being tsundere with other people.
He doesn't like me anymore. ;_;
dude
my ego died in 2005
stop talking about corpses, man
My first instinct is to panic and vehemently deny anything they say =/
oh god that too.
My instinct is usually to say "Thank you for the compliment, but I don't really deserve it so you should probably stop."
The thing is, normally, I assume the worst of someone complimenting me. Or at least, not the worse, but insincerity. Mostly because in my experience (And having done it myself) compliments tend to be done more because of social expectations than because of, you know, actually thinking someone deserves a compliment.
My first instinct is a nervous smile, accepting it and a proper smile.
Juan isn't a tsundere, he's not a redhead!
[obligatory switch to an Asukatar here]
Well, tsundere also come pink, brown, black, male...
oi, i'm not pink!
I mean, hair.
Louise Françoise Le Blanc de la Valliere, Taiga, Shana, Shaoran...
ninjaclown,
Your ego is too large. Yeah I said it. If it weren't, what people say wouldn't matter that much to you, regardless of whether it is positive or negative.
I think that logic makes some sense, but I would not say it really applies to most people. I mean, I feel like plenty of people who have small egos dislike particularly negative comments. I might be missing the point of what you are saying though and if so I apologize in advance.
As for the topic at hand, I believe that compliments tend to be overused and that if you are going to praise someone, it is best to do it sparingly and only really when it is directly linked to what someone did. So saying "good job" when someone does a task well seems reasonable to me, but making a comment like "you are always so awesome, kind, humble, and you have the prettiest/handsomest hair" is going too far in my book.
That being said, I hear that just saying "thanks" is generally the best response to praise, but if someone is rambling in a fashion to the second comment I mentioned, it seems alright to me to tell him or her that that bothers you.
also annoying: people ('specially girls) asking me why I haven't had sex yet
i mean, god, really