I found out some of my family members are assholes

Icalasari

They have taken stuff from my grandmother (including a gift from her father back when he was alive) and refuse to give it back, they refuse to talk to her, and when they do it's to get something from her, promising to return the favour but never doing so

All because she left Nova Scotia

The fuck!?

RedEyedAbyss

Yep. Family life is never as rosy as television makes it seem.

Icalasari

But out right theft?

MadassAlex

Yeah, I know how this goes.

My paternal uncle and aunt were vultures, waiting for my grandfather's death so as to inherit his house, sell it and make a bunch of money. He was the glue that kept that side of the family together, but with him, a lot of family functions died and never came back. I miss those days a lot, but I wouldn't want to have that stuff without him.

RedEyedAbyss

People seem to think that if they are closely related or connected to a person, taking things from them is called "borrowing" rather than "theft", so such an event becomes more likely within a family. Not to say that it isn't cruel, of course.

Icalasari

^ One thing they stole was a bracelet made by my great grandfather for my grandmother

I don't get how that is anything BUT theft

Gelzo

My maternal grandfather's sisters have pulled crap like this, I think.

Lisztening

Extended family tend to act like total dipshits unfortunately. Sometimes it feels like cutting ties is the only option.

Malkavian

My sister (who has since moved out and is living under someone else's roof) told my mother a month before she died that she hoped that she would die. A week before that she attacked my mother and accused her of faking because my mother wouldn't drive her to the mall. For reference, she was dying of cancer at the time so it's not like it was the usual angry teenage daughter stuff. This year she was expelled from her boarding school for stealing over a thousand dollars, and when they were moving her stuff out she stabbed a teacher and my father with a pair of scissors. Once while driving she got angry at me and decided to pull on my seatbelt so it was choking me. 

These are just some snippets.

So I'm aware of terrible family members. 

Ugh, tonight's been depressing.

PrincessApricot

Once I read the opening post, I checked to see if this was in the "wonderful posts" category.

It wasn't.

ಠ_ಠ

Icalasari

^ And I made it as well! That almost GUARANTEES a wonderpost!

RedEyedAbyss

I am astonished to hear that several people here are saddled with outright terrible immediate family members. What kind of societal influence could possibly have led them to behave this way?

At the very least, I'd think that if someone does not want to take responsibility for raising their kids, they should not have kids.

captainbrass

I come across this sort of thing at work a lot - disputes over wills, people still nursing grudges against Dad's second family decades after he bailed on his first one, people financially exploiting elderly parents. Sadly, a few people care more about money than their family and even more just don't like certain family members.

It's depressing stuff.

MillerCross

fuck

this thread makes me feel lucky.

All Nines

What Juan said.

Well, there are a couple burglars in the family, as I recall, but I haven't seen 'em in a while.

MillerCross

Oh, I wouldn't say my family is exactly exemplary, but the worst we have is a couple of slackers who can't hold their family together. 

Nothing like abuse or whatever.