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Questions About Polyamory

TheConductorTheConductor
edited 2011-05-27 04:21:34 in General
Now let me start by saying that Polyamory is one of those things I throw in my "Not really my cup of tea but other people practicing doesn't effect me in any way so what ever floats their boat". I do have a few questions for you guys.

Let's just hypothetically say we have a poly-relationship featuring Jim, Sarah and Alice.  Sarah loves Jim and Alice loves Jim. Jim loves them both. But Sarah and Alice don't love each other. Is that still Polyamory, is Jim just cheating?

How does it HAPPEN? Like... what's the etiquette here? 

Finally, can any of you think of a good example of a ploy-relationship in media? Kind of want to see it in action.

Comments

  • NovaNova
    If you must eat a phoenix, boil it, do not roast it. This only encourages their mischievous habits.
    It is still polyamoury. Jim loves them both equally, and will, well, love both of them as you would love one person.
  • ┻━┻ ︵ ヽ(`Д´）╯︵ ┻━┻┻━┻ ︵ ヽ(`Д´）╯︵ ┻━┻
    Tableflipper
    I don't see how it would be cheating, there's no deception being used.

    Now ideally it is true that it would be better if everyone in a polyamorus relationship loved each other, but expecting such is rather naive.
  • NyarlyNyarly
    edited 2011-05-27 05:34:23
    Likes cheesecake unironically.
    It's only cheating when Sarah and Alice don't know that Jim has a relationship with both of them. Especially when they would disapprove.

    If they know and don't have anything against it, I don't see how this can be cheating.
  • NovaNova
    If you must eat a phoenix, boil it, do not roast it. This only encourages their mischievous habits.
    Oh, I forgot they may not know >_<
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    edited 2011-05-27 05:39:00
    Tableflipper
    Polyamory by default has every known participant to be aware of and allow every accepted participant in the first place.

    This is also the main reason why I actually support it.
  • LongfellowLongfellow
    La vie en rose
    Yeah, it's one of those consent things. If Jim, Sarah, and Alice are all OK with it, why not?
  • VorpyVorpy
    ☭Unstoppable Sex Goddess☭
    Let's just hypothetically say we have a poly-relationship featuring Jim,
    Sarah and Alice.  Sarah loves Jim and Alice loves Jim. Jim loves them
    both. But Sarah and Alice don't love each other. Is that still
    Polyamory, is Jim just cheating?
    Define "don't love each other". As in they don't love each other romantically but are okay with each other or they dislike each other?
  • MillerCrossMillerCross
    You can change. You can.
    I'm guessing the first one.
  • LongfellowLongfellow
    edited 2011-05-27 18:33:48
    La vie en rose
    Well suppose Sarah approves of Jim having relationships with other women in general, but not with Alice. What kind of emotions and problems and resolutions are likely to happen in this situation? I'm inclined to think it would turn out much the same way as with friends--Betty might not want her friend Carol to hang out with that creep Zoe, but she's not so possessive that she doesn't allow Carol to have any friends. At the same time, I doubt the emotions would be the same.
  • SotiCotoSotiCoto
    edited 2011-05-27 19:28:04
    RE-ANIMATOR
    Heh... My flatmate is polyam. She has four boyfriends. Each of them has multiple girlfriends. I don't have any idea how far the full chain-relationship spreads... but I have to respect her wicked organisational skills.  Even one partner is too many for me. 
    I did mention once to someone I was with at the time that I was alright delegating sex-duties to other guys as long as I was still the most important. She didn't approve of the idea as much as I thought she would, so I didn't get pettings that day.  =(


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