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Chun Li's costume is actually relatively modest. I mean you can see some thigh, but it's not exactly Ivy.
...dude, really
i mean
come on
how high do you even HAVE to BE to SAY something like THAT
The shittiest thing about failing job interviews - they will never, ever tell you why they didn't want to hire you.
You have to ask yourself at which point this becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, though. It's not necessarily easy to give the impression of psychological strength when you're feeling insecure and overwhelmed, but your internal attitude might have shown itself in the interview, even if it were just in subtle ways. It's always good to recognise the possibility of failure, but there's a difference between that and believing in its inevitability. Your faith in your own abilities is a powerful element of success. If you don't have that faith, perhaps taking steps to attain it would be helpful, even if it's just simple stuff like doing volunteer work.
It's exceedingly easy for this generation in particular, I think, to become internally self-defeating. To me, it sounds as though you might be your own worst enemy. Been there. Still there, in fact. It's a tough situation that acts as a Catch-22, made tougher by the fact that it can't be broken externally. But being locked in a cycle of failures because of how you think of yourself is a situation that gets worse the longer it exists, so now is the best time to seek improvement and assistance. And don't be too proud to ask for or accept that assistance, because no-one's an island.
Huh? Why does this generation have an easier time to being self-defeating in particular?
Thanks to media and the way it's becoming more and more widespread, it's easier to compare yourself to almost every other success story.
At least, that's my guess.
Oh geeze did your parents have those "Hey look at this person who started off way worse than you and with hard work and talent* ended up being way more successful than you will ever be!" stories ready to fly at a moment's notice too?
*strangely luck was never ever a factor in those stories.
yuuuuuuuuup
i dunno, I also think that that quote from Fight Club about how you're never going to be a rock star or a movie "god" is relevant. Media and culture make lots of promises about success these days but they don't always get here. And considering that in the internet age, a lot of those success stories happen via the web, it's even more hurtful because you realize you also spend your time on the web all the time, but you're not becoming Brian Clevinger/Felicia Day/An Abomination Offspring Involving Both Of Them any time soon.
There's certainly a lot more pressure on particularly younger people today to be better-looking and more adept at tasks at an earlier age. Compare how the looks and personalities of even fictional characters have altered in cinema from, say, the 70s to today. Then you have stuff like anime and video games that present highly sexualised and perfectly idealised images of heavily competent people, so the basis of comparison to reality is way, way off. Media's focus on young protagonists also has a way of presenting success as the responsibility of the young person rather than observation and progression.
Compare this to, say, Greek mythology, where even gods and demi-gods are juvenile and exceedingly flawed. Or Arthurian mythology, which is often concerned with how the knights of the Round Table actually fail to meet their own standards of conduct and their struggles against those internal failings.
Fictional media is a major part of how we interact with those parts of the world that exceed our direct observation, which would be most of it, but that goes double for teens and twenty-somethings who lack in worldly experience. Not that all modern behavioural and psychological issues can be put down to this, of course, but it's an element that certainly doesn't help and I'm almost sure is a major contributing factor.
As a generation, we're uniquely cut off from reality via modern media, the internet and general safety. We're not medieval farmers, who learned what death was during childhood when they were taught how to slaughter a pig, nor are we tribespeople eking out a tentative existence via herding, foraging and primitive architecture. There's a barrier between most of us and what visceral struggle really is, but struggle can't just be eliminated with a shield. So the struggles become more subtle, and psychological issues that might have once impeded survival (such as, say, social anxiety in a male) are now much larger problems because the structure of our society has altered, removed the more immediate and visceral issues and now punishes and rewards different traits in people.
So if the above example of social anxiety no longer impedes technical survival (that being the acquisition of food, water, basic shelter and medical supplies), but technical survival is chump change in a world of almost seven billion people. Surviving to breed is become a fast outdated measure of success, so now our society measures that on by how many degrees we exceed the average person in ability, money, looks and other factors.
Not that I want to imply that we should go back to survivalist values, mind, I just think we're not handling our progression particularly well as a society. Understandable, though. Look at how much has changed in only one-hundred years -- it took books hundreds of years to catch on from manuscript to printing press, but cinema and games caught on mere decades after their inception, and comic books caught on in even less time. We change quickly -- perhaps too quickly to keep up with the problems we're dealing with.
I know that one, except my younger sibling is doing better than I am. How's that for a kick in the teeth? Just remember that no matter the circumstances, you can internally influence your own strength and resolve. I insist to myself that I become stronger in some respects, so I do. Slowly, and sometimes painfully, but if crawling there on your hands and knees is what it takes, then that's that.
>how high do you even HAVE to BE to SAY something like THAT
BlazBlue is a hell of a drug.
On the subject of depression and feelings of inadequacy, I'm somewhat comforted by the fact that I spend a lot of time taking care of my dad and live a billion miles from nowhere.
Still these circumstances leave me with a lot of 'when will my life begin' feelings.
Oh well at least there's comic books and anime.
*hugs everyone*
Ah yes, the biggest piece of bullshit inherent to business culture. Well aside from the ruthless greed and encouraged sociopathy I mean. The incessant need to sell yourself. Gloss over any flaws, hyperbolize accomplishments and abilities and try to stab at an emotional connection instead of a rational one. And don't forget to imply that the other people looking for the position are all space lizard communists or something. And then after you get hired either, it's all about showing confidence in everything you do, even when you aren't sure it is a good idea. Especially when it isn't a good idea actually.
And after a certain point you just end up saying "Fuck it all, I'm a person, not a product. I shouldn't turn my life into a commercial to get this job and act like some happy little elf because that's what my bosses want"
And now you know why I burned out of business classes in college.
*hugs everyone*
I'll shut up...
Well, some positions are better served by extroverts than introverts, just as the nature of the job. Car dealership salespeople don't just sit around hoping customers will come to them with questions; they go and approach customers, and even their pay schemes are centered around incentivizing outgoing cold contacts with new customers in order to get their purchases.
What kind of job were you interviewing for?
I understand being an extreme introvert. I tend to come out of my shell more when I talk about tech stuff so find something like that for you also try to find a job related to that thing. That is reason number two in why I am going into computer science.
My dad called me in to watch a republican speech. Was going to do it to humour him
Then it showed the name
No dad, I am NOT going to watch Santorum give a speech. And you are an idiot for actually listening to him in a way that ISN'T for mocking him
Well after 4 years of abuse m laptop's battery is dead or it was not in right or something because now it's charging.
What is with Pennsylvania spawning particularly crazy conservatives? As good ol' Penn's Woods is my home state, it depresses me.
I'm weird that I'm an introvert but I can actually hold a conversation provided that the other people start it.
i still suck at flirting and shit, though (Try to act surprised, Malk)