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And they were never seen again.

AXavierBAXavierB
edited 2012-01-29 18:00:58 in General

This is something that sometimes I think doesn't bother anyone but me. I'm not a very social person, but it's not because I dislike people; I'm just insecure. So I'm always happy to meet someone that I enjoy talking to, even if only for a few minutes. And that's where this problem comes from. Whenever I go do get out of the house and come across a person who's very pleasant to talk to, I find it very depressing when it's time to part ways--because in all likelihood, I'll never see that person again. We only bumped into each other at the store or on the train and I never got their name or anything. Feels bad, man.


This feeling extends to things like teachers and neighbors you weren't particularly close with as well. You graduate or move and being friends with that person isn't much of a possibility, but you enjoyed their presence.


So is that only me? I feel I haven't explained it very well.

Comments

  • IcalasariIcalasari
    No rainbow star
    I know EXACTLY how you feel
  • FirebertFirebert

    This is one of those "better to have loved and lost" things.

  • GelzoGelzo
    Pony Sleuth
    Better to mourn the connections you never had than the ones that ran their course. There's certainly no shortage of people in the world. I also find it very comforting whenever I make some contact with a stranger and they're perfectly pleasent even when it likely doesn't benefit them to act so.
  • FirebertFirebert

    Yeah, hence why I'd rather have a nice interaction once than not have it at all.

  • glennmagusharveyglennmagusharvey
    Creature - Florida Dragon Turtle Human

    I know that feel, bro

  • LouieWLouieW
    edited 2012-01-30 11:33:21
    Loser

    AXavierB,


    Well, one option is to try not to act a bit more distanced around people you do not believe you will ever really have a chance of being close friends with.


    Another option is to try and introduce yourself more in the hopes that doing so will encourage the other person to do the same. I think one potentially nice thing about the internet these days is that it is a lot easier to communicate with people, even if you might never see them face-to-face again. I also believe that brief offline interactions may spur extended worthwhile conversations online, so you need not necessarily feel like you lost something forever when you do something like move away or graduate.


    That being said, I do not really believe that either of those suggestions really fixes this problem and they may be a bit overly simplistic anyway.


    Gelzo,


    I also find it very comforting whenever I make some contact with a stranger and they're perfectly pleasent even when it likely doesn't benefit them to act so.


    Aye, I feel like having interactions like that can help inspire you to be a friendlier stranger as well.

  • captainbrasscaptainbrass

    This has been happening a lot to me lately as I've been going along to events organised by a Meet Up group and a lot of the people you meet don't seem to be "repeat customers". I think it's just part of life and that if you were really meant to have a relationship of some sort with the person, it would happen (e.g. they'd come back to another event to try and keep in touch with you).

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