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Lack of table manners

LiszteningLisztening
edited 2011-10-07 19:30:06 in General
Erudite Meathead
Licking one's fingers and slurping tea is just unacceptable in polite company in a quiet upscale cafe, what the fuck.

Comments

  • MalkavianMalkavian
    MORONS! I'VE GOT MORONS ON MY PAYROLL!
    Slurping tea I can see as annoying, but I wouldn't be that bothered by licking fingers unless he was reaching into a communal snack bowl or something.
  • ChagenChagen
    [tɕagɛn]
    In Japan, slurping liquid foods apparently is a sign of respect.

    Which is why I don't pay much attention to social norms. They're arbitrarily chosen and each culture has different ones anyway? You know that in particular tribal cultures, the correct way for two men to greet each other is to grab each other's testicles?

    Yeah.
  • MillerCrossMillerCross
    You can change. You can.
    Still, if you're in rome...
  • MalkavianMalkavian
    MORONS! I'VE GOT MORONS ON MY PAYROLL!
    It's generally a good idea to acquiesce to silly ineffectual mannerism if they're not too ridiculous.

    Still, if I ever stay at an eskimo's place, I'm probably not going to fuck his wife.
  • MillerCrossMillerCross
    You can change. You can.
    Even if she's hot?
  • LiszteningLisztening
    edited 2011-10-07 19:35:49
    Erudite Meathead
    @Chagen: But this is North America. When in Rome, do as Romans do. Plus, this specific person is an American.

    @Malkavian: Ah, the diner with shitty hygiene. I absolutely detest sharing tables with those in Chinese cuisine, I swear. (in those banquet like settings, people grab the food with used chopsticks and swish the food)

    EDIT: Heh, ninja'd by Juan in a way
  • LegionnaireLegionnaire
    Licking one's fingers
    Well, fuck.
  • NovaNova
    edited 2011-10-07 19:36:09
    If you must eat a phoenix, boil it, do not roast it. This only encourages their mischievous habits.
    They're arbitrarily chosen and each culture has different ones anyway?

    They evolve over time. Each culture has different social norms because each culture evolves differently.
  • MalkavianMalkavian
    MORONS! I'VE GOT MORONS ON MY PAYROLL!
    Lisztening: Ah, so you were sharing food. That makes much more sense.
  • ViviVivi
    $80+ per session
    I don't give a shit about customs and traditions and culture. Slurping is disgusting and I don't want to hear it.
  • MalkavianMalkavian
    MORONS! I'VE GOT MORONS ON MY PAYROLL!
    Yeah, that's the main thing with slurping for me. Also, chewing with your mouth open.
  • LegionnaireLegionnaire
    When I come to power, the second thing I'll do (after installing the Top Gear team to manage global driving laws) is make chewing with your mouth open over the age of 18 punishable by death by firing squad.
  • LouieWLouieW
    Loser
    Chagen,
    Which is why I don't pay much attention to social norms. They're arbitrarily chosen and each culture has different ones anyway?

    I am not sure that they are completely arbitrarily chosen. I mean some of the stuff related to not spiting in someone's face or not covering your face when you sneeze seem related to hygiene to me. I admit that others like saying "excuse me" after burping just seem to be about politeness more than anything else.

    I also feel like the social norms of some places actually are better than others and thus it can make sense to say that some norms are just better regardless of context. That being said, in the interest of not offending other people, I think it is often fair to follow local norms.


  • PrincessApricotPrincessApricot
    Give them pleasure - the same pleasure they have when they wake up from a nightmare.
    Simply unacceptable.

    All schools should have an etiquette class.

    D:<

  • IanExMachinaIanExMachina
    I am Dr. Ned who is totally not Dr. Zed in disguise.
    @LouieW

    >I also feel like the social norms of some places actually are better than others and thus it can make sense to say that some norms are just better regardless of context.

    Which norms are you thinking of?
  • InsanityAddictInsanityAddict
    Diet NEET

    All context-dependent. A get-together with arrested bros that doesn't include burping contests and stealing the food of each other's plates suffers from a lack of lack of table manners.

  • MadassAlexMadassAlex
    One foot in front of the other, every day.
    I'm guilty of slurping tea. If there's one thing I like as much as milk, it's tea. It's not like I mean to. I just love tea.
  • IcalasariIcalasari
    No rainbow star
    ^ :D I have mint leaves hanging in my room, nice and dry for chocolate mint tea

    Still have yet to try any non herbal teas. Really should. The caffeine would help me get to sleep and it would be better than coffee I bet...
  • LouieWLouieW
    edited 2011-10-09 15:00:02
    Loser
    IanExMachina,
    Which norms are you thinking of?

    I am not sure what I was thinking of when I made that post (and I apologize if it sounded rather harsh and inconsiderate), but I think that a good deal of human rights norms are objectively better than norms that conflict with them.

    This might not be about table manners either, but I find social norms that encourage strict hierarchies between different "castes" of people harmful as well because they tend to discourage people from treating each other as equals. Likewise, I believe that social norms that treat women well are to be preferred to ones that treat them like second-class citizens.

    As for stuff closer to table manners, I think that you can make a good argument based on hygiene that social customs that encourage people to wash their hands after using the bathroom and such are generally good, regardless of context. This is not to say that certain norms are good just because they are common in the U.S. or France or South Korea or wherever. I feel like what makes a norm good or bad (if it can be considered good or bad) is the content of the norm rather than its existence as a norm.
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