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Being forced to sleep despite all the things I need to do
Despite being a snowclone, this are serious thread.
My mom is trying very, very hard to impose a midnight curfew on me.
This leads to 80% chance of drama every night.
So, a year ago, I came home from school and was regularly sleeping at like 3:30 AM or later. My parents wanted me to sleep earlier. I agreed with them on this; times like 4 AM are quite too late to sleep even in my opinion. So over the course of this past year, I gradually moved my time up from then to about 2 AM, then about 1:30 AM. With unreleting pressure from my parents to sleep even earlier.
I sleep at 2 AM, they want 1 AM. I sleep at 1:30 AM they want 12:30 AM. I sleep at 1 AM, they want midnight.
Not to mention that their "mercy time" is also decreasing. They've wanted me to sleep at midnight for a while now. I used to be able to get away with sleeping at 1 AM or even later after my parents had told me to go to sleep and then went to bed themselves. They'd get up at like 2 AM or so to scold me so I would be safe as long as I went to bed before then. (Or were able to sneak around to avoid detection.)
Then they started to be more severe. This started with my mom shutting off the internet when she went to bed (as she's the later of the two). Then my mom soon started shutting off the internet at midnight, and going to bed shortly past it. She even set an alarm to go off at midnight to remind herself (which inevitably meant that she'd be reminded of everything else associated with it and be on the verge of throwing a hissy-fit at me about my being all the computer all the time, if not actually throwing one already). While I almost never contest this, since I don't want create more possibly-backfiring drama such as them trashing the router and since it does have some other benefits (such as saving electrical power), I would nevertheless stay on the computer past midnight, often making sure I had loaded text-heavy webpages I wanted to read or started tasks that I could finish without an internet connection (such as fixing up a résumé).
So, for a time, my mom would turn off the internet at midnight, she might fire off a few notifications telling me to go to sleep, and then she'd go to sleep herself. She'd generally get up again sometime between 12:45 AM and 1:30 AM so I'd be fine if I went to sleep before that happened.
Oh, and on top of this, she added another "security system"--a nightlight that stays on in the upstairs hallway, which she requests that I turn off when I go to bed. If I turn it off early, she claims that I am endangering her and myself, in case either of us would want need to walk through the area in the dark. (This, despite my LONG, LONG record of navigating through the house in complete darkness, and near-perfect silence too.) However, if I would leave it on to confuse her as to when I went to bed, she would complain that I was wasting electricity.
Her actions are partly due to her getting up every day very early--sometimes even before 6 AM--and not being able to go back to sleep. She then decides to just up and start the day. She complains that my sleeping in is bad for several reasons:
* normal people don't get to sleep 'til 9:30 AM or 10 AM, let alone past that.
* how am I going to prepare myself for a real job if I keep on sleeping like this?
* my sleep during morning daylight hours is less efficient sleep because there are the sounds of human activity nearby--such as landscaping people and anything that my mom does during the day.
* my mom says that she has to avoid doing things that make lots of noise or in the morning because I'm sleeping, and that's really annoying and inconvenient.
** ...even though I have repeatedly told her that I sleep through it anyway. And then she says that the sleep I get is inefficient and doesn't do my body well.
Heck, if anything I appreciate flitting between sleep and awake at the end--it both makes me get up faster (when I do "officially" wake up) and it also leads me to remember dreams much better.
And most recently, it's gotten really annoying. She now pretty much insists that I go to bed at midnight, or only shortly after. Even if she's gone to bed before midnight, she will keep the alarm set (attempts to remove the alarm have also resulted in high drama). And then at midnight, she will get up and turn off the internet (i.e. router, you know what I mean). And then, if I still don't go to sleep, she will proceed to RAEG AT ME, FROM HER BED, EVEN, FOR BEING SUCH A MISERABLE LITTLE PILE OF FAILURE AT EVEN DILIGENTLY FINDING A JOB AFTER GETTING A MASTER'S DEGREE, AND TRYING TO GET INVOLVED IN POLITICS WHEN I CAN'T EVEN MANAGE MY OWN LIFE YADDA YADDA YADDA BING BANG WHIZ WHOOSH KAPOW DAQUT DOOF.
My mom is trying very, very hard to impose a midnight curfew on me.
This leads to 80% chance of drama every night.
So, a year ago, I came home from school and was regularly sleeping at like 3:30 AM or later. My parents wanted me to sleep earlier. I agreed with them on this; times like 4 AM are quite too late to sleep even in my opinion. So over the course of this past year, I gradually moved my time up from then to about 2 AM, then about 1:30 AM. With unreleting pressure from my parents to sleep even earlier.
I sleep at 2 AM, they want 1 AM. I sleep at 1:30 AM they want 12:30 AM. I sleep at 1 AM, they want midnight.
Not to mention that their "mercy time" is also decreasing. They've wanted me to sleep at midnight for a while now. I used to be able to get away with sleeping at 1 AM or even later after my parents had told me to go to sleep and then went to bed themselves. They'd get up at like 2 AM or so to scold me so I would be safe as long as I went to bed before then. (Or were able to sneak around to avoid detection.)
Then they started to be more severe. This started with my mom shutting off the internet when she went to bed (as she's the later of the two). Then my mom soon started shutting off the internet at midnight, and going to bed shortly past it. She even set an alarm to go off at midnight to remind herself (which inevitably meant that she'd be reminded of everything else associated with it and be on the verge of throwing a hissy-fit at me about my being all the computer all the time, if not actually throwing one already). While I almost never contest this, since I don't want create more possibly-backfiring drama such as them trashing the router and since it does have some other benefits (such as saving electrical power), I would nevertheless stay on the computer past midnight, often making sure I had loaded text-heavy webpages I wanted to read or started tasks that I could finish without an internet connection (such as fixing up a résumé).
So, for a time, my mom would turn off the internet at midnight, she might fire off a few notifications telling me to go to sleep, and then she'd go to sleep herself. She'd generally get up again sometime between 12:45 AM and 1:30 AM so I'd be fine if I went to sleep before that happened.
Oh, and on top of this, she added another "security system"--a nightlight that stays on in the upstairs hallway, which she requests that I turn off when I go to bed. If I turn it off early, she claims that I am endangering her and myself, in case either of us would want need to walk through the area in the dark. (This, despite my LONG, LONG record of navigating through the house in complete darkness, and near-perfect silence too.) However, if I would leave it on to confuse her as to when I went to bed, she would complain that I was wasting electricity.
Her actions are partly due to her getting up every day very early--sometimes even before 6 AM--and not being able to go back to sleep. She then decides to just up and start the day. She complains that my sleeping in is bad for several reasons:
* normal people don't get to sleep 'til 9:30 AM or 10 AM, let alone past that.
* how am I going to prepare myself for a real job if I keep on sleeping like this?
* my sleep during morning daylight hours is less efficient sleep because there are the sounds of human activity nearby--such as landscaping people and anything that my mom does during the day.
* my mom says that she has to avoid doing things that make lots of noise or in the morning because I'm sleeping, and that's really annoying and inconvenient.
** ...even though I have repeatedly told her that I sleep through it anyway. And then she says that the sleep I get is inefficient and doesn't do my body well.
Heck, if anything I appreciate flitting between sleep and awake at the end--it both makes me get up faster (when I do "officially" wake up) and it also leads me to remember dreams much better.
And most recently, it's gotten really annoying. She now pretty much insists that I go to bed at midnight, or only shortly after. Even if she's gone to bed before midnight, she will keep the alarm set (attempts to remove the alarm have also resulted in high drama). And then at midnight, she will get up and turn off the internet (i.e. router, you know what I mean). And then, if I still don't go to sleep, she will proceed to RAEG AT ME, FROM HER BED, EVEN, FOR BEING SUCH A MISERABLE LITTLE PILE OF FAILURE AT EVEN DILIGENTLY FINDING A JOB AFTER GETTING A MASTER'S DEGREE, AND TRYING TO GET INVOLVED IN POLITICS WHEN I CAN'T EVEN MANAGE MY OWN LIFE YADDA YADDA YADDA BING BANG WHIZ WHOOSH KAPOW DAQUT DOOF.
Comments
slavesmods. You even have an Australian one to cover your back when your asleep.My mom also objects to me using snooze and multiple alarms to wake me up.
"You need to learn to get up immediately when you wake up!"
"But I can just set my alarm half an hour earlier."
"Why do you have that luxury?!" OR "What if you fall back asleep?"
Anyhow, that seems far too much trouble to go through. I'd just go along with her and sleep at midnight or whatever hour she later decides is bed time.
Granted, it really doesn't help that I waste a lot of my day time chatting with people online (and TF2 being free is NOT HELPING AT ALL). But at least having an extra pocket of time in which to finish up some things really does help.
And you're not normal! Problem solved
"how am I going to prepare myself for a real job if I keep on sleeping like this?"
Night jobs
"my sleep during morning daylight hours is less efficient sleep because there are the sounds of human activity nearby--such as landscaping people and anything that my mom does during the day."
Actually, she has a point there. Light while you sleep apparently screws with your body
"my mom says that she has to avoid doing things that make lots of noise or in the morning because I'm sleeping, and that's really annoying and inconvenient."
If she doesn't want you sleeping in, then this is a moot point
"...even though I have repeatedly told her that I sleep through it anyway. And then she says that the sleep I get is inefficient and doesn't do my body well."
Once again, she has a point. Like I said, light + sleep = screwy