"Deal with it" and varients (when used in non-joking contexts)

DonZabu

I know I've said this before, but fuck it.

There's an underlying problem with responding to other people's dilemmas with "deal with it" or, as Vorpy puts it, "don't do X". The problem is that these attempted solutions don't do anything to address whatever underlying problem led the person to act that way in the first place.

Essentially, it's trying to go after the symptom only, rather than going after what causes that symptom. Do it this way, and the symptom (that is, the disagreeable behavior) is just going to crop up again. That is, assuming that it actually can be sedated through this manner in the first place.

And I don't want to sound like a bleeding-heart white knight or whatever by saying this (even though I've probably already lost in that regard), but it's frightfully discompassionate as well, especially when it becomes the default response.

Forzare

inb4 deal with it

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I think it can lead to results, even if one tries to go for it without knowing how to blindly.

It's just that the results can be worse.

Possibly less annoying though, most people are going to be more bothered by someone constantly spewing their problems at others(assuming that they have to put up with it for rather long periods of time) than someone who commits suicide unless it's a caring parent, who likely sucks at trying to help if he suggested this to the same person.

Gelzo

Deal with it.

inafter deal with it

DonZabu

^ Oh no, I didn't see that coming and stuff. Grrrrrrrrrr...

Gelzo

I don't even mean it. It's just something that has to be done.

CommandoDude

I guess you're just going to have to...

*glasses*

Deal with the meme.

YEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!

Gelzo

I love how the sunglasses work for both memes.

Vorpy

I have guilty of doing this to other people, mostly because I don't relate to their problems, like in the FPS thread. Because I didn't sympathize with Thorn, I railed against his complaining and just went "Then don't X".

Same with the Chagen threads, in a more wordy manner.

Nyarly

inb4 Kino

glennmagusharvey

IJBM: people having some stupid idea that "deal with it" is somehow manly or otherwise considered a good idea.

Last time my dad "dealt with it", he braved through a couple weeks of having occasional insect bites where he was staying.  While bedbugs were festering beneath him.

(He doesn't usually get bitten by insects.  That should have been a warning sign already.)

MillerCross

I only use Deal with it when the problem the other person has is an attitude or other people's lifestyles or actions that do not concern him on any shape or form. 

Khwarizmi

^ This, plus I'd say it was a fair response if they have an actual, solvable problem that they aren't even trying to do anything about.

Nyarly

I'm not sure if I should say something or not...

Vorpy

Don't Nyarly.