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Online relationships are considered irrelevant
This one is not able to keep playing online games due to time issues, of which she regretfully informed her clan today. This one is very, very sad to leave her clanmates, for in the last 3 years they were truer friends to her than any real life acquaintances.
What bugs this one? That is she told about being so sad over in to most people in real life, they'd consider her insane.
What bugs this one? That is she told about being so sad over in to most people in real life, they'd consider her insane.
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Ange from back in Canada isn't going to give me a ride to work when my car is down, you know? Sure playing Hisou online would be fun, but all in all, the direct connection usually helps a lot more than contact via the internet or telephone.
I grew up elsewhere, I went to high school elsewhere, I went to colleges elsewhere, so I basically have no peers around here whom I know.
Although, I would have more meatspace friends--I refuse to say "real life friends" because it implies the ones I have aren't--if I hadn't moved out of state; several of the people I talk to online are people I started out being friends with in school before I moved here.
This one is not able to keep playing online games due to time issues, of
which she regretfully informed her clan today. This one is very, very
sad to leave her clanmates, for in the last 3 years they were truer
friends to her than any real life acquaintances.
What bugs this one? That is she told about being so sad over in to most people in real life, they'd consider her insane.
I think it is rather silly that some people think that such relationships are not worth caring about. I mean, I feel like being in a clan or what have you is pretty similar to having a group of buddies with which you play games together or go to LAN parties or the like. I think it is not unlike having a group of friends you play football with every weekend either. I actually see the football analogy as being a better fit since I imagine that most people are not personally best buds with everyone who they play with and there are some people who one would probably rarely see outside of those football games.
Also, I agree that playing in a clan or group or whatever can be pretty fun. I think it is nice to be able to work together with a group of people toward a common goal in an online game, especially when each person has an important role to play.
Still, I can understand why some people may not believe that online relationships are as fulfilling as offline ones. I feel like one tends to interact with offline friends more often and in a greater variety of situations than one does with online friends (especially if one is still in school). Plus, I think that it is significantly easier to sympathize with people online than offline so I believe that "e-hugs" and the like can be a bit more questionable than their real life equivalents.
You are certainly right that is is easier to sympathise with the people online than in real life. The relationship is certainly much less..demanding, so to say. Which is one of the main advantages of online relationships for this one, but of course not everyone thinks so. Some might consider it...shallow, I guess?
However, the relationship meant a lot for this one outside of game, and taught her a lot too.
Tnu1138
This one is sorry to hear it
I place value with online friends but also know they can vanish without a trace. I have been in a few gaming clans a couple of them had some good friends but stuff happens and folks vanish.
They are not totally worthless but their value compared to meat space friend from my view is not as highly valuable.
I have been where glenn is plenty of times. I was an airforce brat so I always in different places. Even when I no longer lived at home I bounced around a little bit inside the city at least. Hell I miss the guys from boot camp but that is a bit of a different thing all together. Right now the group I am tied too is the Snow Hawk Clan. It is kind of sad to see folks you know come and go but you get used to it.
It's true that in real life friendships may be viewed as more important because they're more tangible and the people you're friends with in person can physically do things for you i.e. hang out with you and buy you things and whatnot, but IMO it's really shallow that some people think that's all that actually matters. Real friendship includes a lot of other things, like having who shares your interests, someone to talk to when you're feeling down, and a bunch of other corny stuff like that. I don't think it's at all unreasonable to feel close to someone you only know online. Relationships are, after all, primarily about communication, which some people actually find easier online than they do in person.
which has created a bit of tension. I got a lot of the "they're really
56-year-old rapists/serial killers" crap too."
Ahem, the same could be said about real-life relationships. Not the 56 year thing, of course, but...who of us really knows exactly what the other people are doing every single hour in a day? Some serial killers had family, after all - a family that did not suspect a thing. And neighbours and friends who were utterly convinced that they are very nice person.