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I'll never be able to participate in National Coming Out Day.

ChagenChagen
edited 2011-04-14 09:37:03 in Meatspace
[tɕagɛn]
Because of my homophobic dad. It would feel liberating to wear the bisexual pride flag on October 11. It would feel great just to come out and tell everyone I know that I'm bisexual, that I like men and women that way. It be satifying to meet others like that. But I can't. Me and my dad already clash a lot. But I don't know what he'd do jf he learned I wasn't straight. He may disown me. Or, more likely, he view me badly. I don't think he'd become more accepting and tolerant, but that's just because I'm pessimistic sometimes. My mom wouldn't care, but she can't stop my dad from being enraged. He probably would cry about how he "failed", and how I'm going on "the wrong path". All because a book told him so. And he would blame it on the "liberal brainwashing" in the media, whatever that may be. And if I did, I'd have deal with heterosexism, monosexism, homophobia, and biphobia all at once at my school. I'm not sure if I can deal with that, though my school is more liberal than most. This is depressing. How I wish I could tell this man, "Hey, dad? I wanna tell you something. I'm not straight. I'm bisexual." But I don't want to completely shatter our relationship. I wonder what's it's like to live in a family that accepts for what you are, one that doesn't force you to stay in the closet. /emo

Comments

  • BaronGrackleBaronGrackle
    Master Guardian of the Passive Voice
    I know it's insensitive, ignorant, and wrongly-stereotypical of me to think this way... but i just can't wrap my head around the fact that this guy supposedly likes the French so much. His customized bigotry is really confusing me.
  • ChagenChagen
    [tɕagɛn]
    What do the French have to do with bisexuality?
  • BaronGrackleBaronGrackle
    Master Guardian of the Passive Voice
    Nothing at all. But in the world of senseless stereotypes, they are often wrongly associated. :-)
  • ChagenChagen
    [tɕagɛn]
    My dad is odd. My whole family is.
  • inkblotinkblot
    000
    ok sexuality is coming out

    /shitpost
  • Trash_VortexTrash_Vortex
    Don't tell him. Maybe you could tell someone else.
  • VorpyVorpy
    ☭Unstoppable Sex Goddess☭
    I celebrated it already. It's stupid.
  • ChagenChagen
    [tɕagɛn]
    Trash: The point of coming out would probably be let everyone you know know about your sexuality.

    A lot of people I know well know anyway. My best friends, and my mom know. My brother and my father are the only familial relations who don't know.

    Also, someone would probably try to out me to my dad. I can avoid that by simply saying they're trying to defame me, but it would be hard if he started saying a bunch of biphobic things.
  • IcalasariIcalasari
    No rainbow star
    Unless there is a reason to say (eg a homosexual being forced to date women. You deciding to date a guy, the person is a blurter) then why let him know at all? I'm bi myself, and when I was confused I told my parents. They didn't believe it and these days I don't see a need to tell them, especially since it would create tension (my dad isn't homophobic (I think...) Just a bit ignorant, which would still generate tension)

    I imagine that day is more meant for when coming out would improve the person's life by removing a weight off their shoulders, and not for cases where coming out may put you on the streets or have "the gay" beaten out of you
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