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The idea that you're never supposed to criticize someone's parenting
"Don't ever tell me how to raise my kid."
I dunno, this always bothered me because how you raise your children will directly effect how they turn out later in life and if you do something wrong then they're the ones who are going to have to live on as products of any mistakes you might have made. Their parenting even impacts the people who come into contact with them later in life because it shapes how they view and interact with others. How come we all seem to see upbringing as a purely personal thing that is solely the parents' business and anyone else who tries to enable a child to look at things from a perspective contrary to what their parents might have taught them is seen as a negative influence?
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For some reason I thought this was going to be about telling someone they're the illegitimate spawn of a rather exotic pairing, but that's criticizing their parentage.
Because a parent's role is to control their child, and outside influences are the very definition of a lack of control.
I'm not saying that having a different perspective is wrong, I'm just explaining the frame of mind.
I criticize my mom's parenting all the time! [laugh track]
Sheldon plz
I criticize my mom's parenting all the time [few laughs] In fact, I did it just last night [more laughs] She KNOWS I only eat dinner between 8:00 and 9:00 on dates divisible by 3! [uproarous laughter with the huehuehue guy]
Or something else about how anal he is
who is Sheldon.
Character from The Big Bang Theory/huge nerdy asshole.
oh isn't that that show that makes fun of autistic people or whatever
So I've heard (or, so Malk and them will tell you, at least). I've never seen an episode and thought to read heavily into it, but it doesn't exactly make its characters sympathetic.
yup
That's... a rather scary definition of parenting. No, it's a definition of parenting I'm actively against: It basically says "Parents have to keep their children away from outside influences". To hell with that, that's just brainwashing then. That's why I am against homeschooling etc - to give children an outside perspective, so they can eventually choose between perspectives. To prevent parental brainwashing.
No? Then what was everything that your parents taught you? It is not merely for them to control you, but for you to learn how to control them, the world, and your existence itself. You even learned to control yourself. The whole thing is (ideally) not one-sided control.
But outside influences are part of this. The problem is that you just defined parental control as "keeping children away from outside influences". Whether you meant to do so or not, but that is what your post amounted to.
His point was that some people would see the lack of control as a hugely bad thing, not necessarily that they go against the definition of parenting itself.
I don't like when parents heavily spoil their children. This often results in the child growing up to become a self-centred twat who must get their way. Or when parents don't discipline the offspring. I REALLY hate that. I was sat on the tram and some little shit was so close to kicking my shins when he was swinging his legs and his mother did fuck all.
/hatesyoungchildrenundersevenwithapassion
That is not the purpose of homeschooling.
But what about the fundie parents who refuse to send their children to schools because of the "godlessness of the education system", the fact that they teach evolution etc, and end up feeding them ultrareligious bullshit through homeschooling?
Exactly. That may not be the only reason for parents to resort to homeschooling, but it definitely seems to be one of the most common (at least in the United States).
That's unfortunate but also not representative of homeschooling on the whole.
If nearly 3 out of every 4 people cites a particular reason for doing something, that's generally a good indicator of the whole.
I would like to point out that using a country who's population is known for its use of religion to justify everything as an example of why homeschooling is inherently religiously-based or otherwise flawed is pretty much as close as it gets to confirmation bias.
Uh...
Face it, brainwashing is the primary reason for homeschooling.
Why not use the USA for that? Among developed nations that seems to be where homeschooling is most often chosen by far.
I was homeschooled...
^^Well, I couldn't present you numbers for here, but I'd assume the rate to be even higher here. Simply because homeschooling is so uncommon here, and hence not so much in the public mind... which means the more or less only reasons any parents would think about that are of ideological nature.
@MillerCross: I couldn't find similar studies from other countries quickly. (Note that I made that post on a phone while eating breakfast.) Homeschooling is more common in the US than most places, and Lazuli is American anyway.
Since I'm at school now, I abused my university's library database to look for studies about homeschooling, and I found none outside of the US.