Pushing social boundaries.

glennmagusharvey

So when you become a member of a group, people have certain expectations of your behavior.  These generally aren't hard-and-fast rules, but more of a general expectation of what you might and might not do.  Note that they are dependent on, but not necessarily defined by, what is normally socially acceptable in the group; they are also dependent on how people see you; if they see you as a big ham, for instance, they might tolerate more loudness from you than from the average group member, especially if they're used to you.

Now you can attempt to push the envelope by going toward one side of that range more often than the other, and if you do it well you might push the boundaries of social acceptability.  But if you go outside people's expectations of you, people will be a bit unnerved by it, which might decrease your acceptability.

I want to post someone's semi-free fandub of "Try Unite" (the Lagrange OP) to my anime club's Facebook feed.  However, the club, like many anime clubs, isn't really too fond of dubs on average, and almost certainly not of ones that change the meaning of the text.  (It would be a bit hard to make an exception.)  I'm also not a veteran member of the club yet.  So if I post this this might have some effect in pushing the boundaries of the acceptability of dubs in general, but it might also isolate me from the group a bit.

dronepeanut

 

i was basically a sore thumb in my old group in a bad way in their eyes . 

Schitzo

^How so?

 

Also, I can definitely understand what you mean. Back in an old dishwashing job, it took an older, crass and rowdy coworker (who'd been there much longer than my peers) to get any changes in the workplace done. Logically, he shouldn't have been able to, but I'm sure he's earned his intimacy with a good number of coworkers both above and below his position.

dronepeanut

 

here a list things why

1.they like pop or rock but when i showed my music they got nasty.

2.i have very very dark sense of humor 

3.became aware they were just bunch of shitheads.

thats good of him

Kraken

I did do an essay yesterday about people "pretending to be other people". About "being yourself."

And I've come to understand that in social contexts, everybody is themselves. They want to do this thing, want to fit into this other group, want to take risks. 

It's just that this divergent behavior violates the mental images of you, and it hurts. We should stop doing this.

glennmagusharvey

...huh?

InsanityAddict

Hello, Impostor Syndrome.