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Laughing at yourself
is overrated. It encourages complacency, I think.
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I find that making yourself the punchline is incredibly cathartic.
Make of that what you will.
I do unto others what I would like to be done unto me, so, I mock other people as much as I mock me.
I can laugh at myself just fine. There's plenty to laugh about. I mostly don't mind good-natured ribbing by what few friends I have. I'm a pretty complacent person as it is.
I can't laugh at myself along with some asshole I don't like who doesn't actually like me either. Such people never actually know anything about me, really, and their mockery is based on generalizations, assumptions, outright falsehood, etc.
People often accuse me of having no sense of humor. When the supposed humor is at my expense, inevitably my comeback is something to the effect of "That would have possibly been funny if it made any sense." And it really never does.
Complacency against what exactly? Ego? Societal collapse? Social function? As a hypercritical person of myself, those days where I can just laugh at myself and stuff in a good natured way are some of the happier days.
Laughing at oneself is better than loathing oneself. There's that.
They are often not mutually exclusive, though.
Being able to laugh at yourself means you can accept who you are, strengths and flaws and everything in between.
^^True enough, but I find self-loathing to be more indicative of the supposed paralysis of personal growth than laughing at oneself.
Of course this is all anecdotal.
I dunno. I think that one of the issues here is that we're all approaching a purely personal preference such as how people see us and what impression we want to project based on our personal turmoil.
I mean:
I've always been able to poke fun at myself (Whether it is towards my own narcissist tendencies, my propensity towards vitriol and so on) but I never could say I accept who I am, my strenghts or my flaws. Or that I could even distinguish what any of those three even are. At least, on a personal, spiritual level, anyway.
Oh, agreed, definetly.
So you're uncomfortable with yourself? I never would have guessed.
I'd figured that my self-loathing is so apparent as to have become a gag on this site.
You learn to put on a face when needed.
Yeah there are days when I can do both, one right after the other. It's not nice.
And presumeably not change or work on those flaws, hence the "complacency" part.
Yes, but as it's been pointed out, that is just one possible consequence of the act, not the sole consequence of the act in and of itself.
The only people I've met who couldn't laugh at themselves either had rock bottom self-esteem or too much pride to do so.
There's a lot more danger in refusing to acknowledge one's flaws than acknowledging them.
I stopped loathing myself when I understood I am EEEEEEEEEEEEVIL. MWAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHA!
I dunno, groups laughing at themselves has resulted in some awesome things.
Yeah, I think being able to laugh at yourself helps keep your ego from going out of control. It also can help you stay more relaxed and not get bogged down in every little thing people say about you.
Still, I feel like self-deprecating humor can be pretty annoying in the "hey, look at me talking about myself" or the fishing for compliments sense.
I see self deprecating humor the same way I see puns: Everyone can do it, very few can do it right.
This also helps your ego in the long-term, may I add.
Shut up, Haven fanboy.
I never said you can't pun. I implied it, but I never said it.
I'd devolve into angrish right now, but then, I would be missing my chance to claw your eye out.
I guess we don't see eye-to-eye on this one, then.
We cannot see eye-to-eye, this is not in the land of the blind, your noble station is nonexistant.
Also because Juan only has one eye.